I broke a mother’s heart today. Hers is not the first, and I neither expect nor hope it to be the last. Not until our society destroys its last Gomco clamp and Plastibell device.
Why must the truth be so hard to come by at times? Why do some ignore their instincts, others never acknowledge their existence, and others still put all their faith in spouses and family members who claim to know what’s best or in doctors who lie by ommission?
In the end babies suffer. They scream in torture or fall silent or unconscious in a state of shock. Then these babies grow into men who also suffer–depression, anger, resentment, premature ejaculation, loss of sensation, erectile dysfunction. And these men take on sexual partners who will suffer, too–dryness, abrasion, unfulfillment. Yet enough function remains for new lives to be created and the cycle to begin again.
More misinformation, more pain, more guilt, more heartbreak.
Routine infant circumcision (and now the adult circumcision Americans are selling to HIV ravaged nations) is the greatest American atrocity masquerading as a cultural norm since slavery.
My heart shatters too each time a baby screams and no mother pulls him tight against her chest, each time a man realizes the extent of what his scar represents, each time a mother stumbles upon the truth and reels from the feeling that light will never again shine in her world, as all must have gone black for the one she loves most.
You, Mother, are neither stupid nor horrid nor evil nor a bitch nor any other insult who’ve spewed in your own face. You, Mother, are a victim, too.
Be brave, be strong, be fucking angry like you’ve never been fucking angry before. But never let the darkness swallow you whole. Other mothers need you. Their baby boys need you.
See the video that broke a mother’s heart here.
“There is no rational basis to justify circumcision.” -Dr. Michael Malloy, professor of pediatrics who oversees the University of Texas Medical Branch’s Pediatric Residency Training program in circumcision